A few weeks ago I drafted an intimate, vulnerable, update to the members of the Better Men Project. Then it got sent to my entire listserv.
It was a mistake that left me feeling exposed. But I was moved and encouraged by your response. I’m still looking for the words to talk about what I have learned on this often painful path from toxic masculinity towards conscious masculinity. But I commit to finding a way to share. There is something liberating about truth and our stories.
Read MoreMeet Damali Vidot. Chelsea's City Council President. A mother. An activist. A healer. And the coolest, funniest person that you will ever meet. In this series she speaks of her journey from being a self proclaimed "hood rat" to Chelsea's City Council President. She teaches us about the difficulties of working in the political trenches, and how spirit has been integral to her survival.
Read MoreMeet my friend Luana Morales. Your birth, death and healing doula. A contemporary medicine woman. And a beloved leader in our activist community.
Read MoreLaying in my tent. Camping in Cape Cod. A little bit ashamed about scrolling through my phone. I saw another headline about the burning Amazon. And how it will take hundreds of years for the rain forest to recover. My chest welled up. I wanted to cry. I said “not now” to myself. And I kept scrolling.
Read MoreThis is the launch of my video series. And I’m thrilled to be introducing you to my wife, Samantha Tan. She is an executive coach to women, a circle holder and all around wise woman. She is devoting her life to reclaim pleasure as medicine, compass and path.
Read MoreI have always thought that Puerto Rico is a miner’s canary. A harbinger of what is to come. What has happened in Puerto Rico is a pattern that repeats itself all over the world. If everything is fractal, then Puerto Rico just showed us the way.
Read MoreLast October I had the privilege of speaking at Inter(x) HubWeek about the difference between Toxic Masculinity and Conscious Masculinity. You can watch the full talk below. Next week, on Monday July 8 at 8:30PM East the Better Men Project will be hosting a call to relinquish patriarchy.
Read MoreI am intrigued by Seth Godin’s distinction between accountability and responsibility. He says:
Accountability is done to you. It’s done by the industrial system, by those that want to create blame.
Responsibility is done by you. It’s voluntary. You can take as much of it as you want.
Read Moreadrienne maree brown is a prophetic voice for our times. She just wrote a clear and precise admonishment for any man who dares to pay attention.
People are gathering around her books Emergent Strategy and Pleasure Activism. I’m inviting men to gather around this blog post. Let’s take a deeper dive into the conversation.
Read MoreOnly ten percent of our happiness is determined by our circumstances. Where we live. How rich or poor we are. Our health. Our place within the structure of oppression.
I want my work to have a direct impact on the objective conditions of the people. But it is imperative that I pay attention to how I go about doing this. Because I risk limiting my impact. My work should aim for more than only 10 percent of a person’s experience of happiness, of freedom and aliveness. I want real leverage.
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