Harness Masculinity

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I’m looking forward to our call tonight. We are going to talk about how we hold each other. Last week I invited you to check out this clip of my interview with Lawrence Barriner: Men Need to be Held. Women Don't Have to Do All the Holding. 

I also released a podcast with the last new moon. Lawrence, Austin, and I have a great conversation about the Better Men Project. Here is how I speak of what we are doing:

I am aware that in my life, in my first effort to address patriarchy within myself, after failing as a man in the most terrible ways, that meant turning down my masculinity. 

So I made masculinity and patriarchy the same thing. To me those two things were one and the same. What I tried to do was be good, be conscious, be righteous by being less masculine. And I see it happen all the time. 

I see men just try to turn it off in order to be good guys. What I’ve learned over the years is that patriarchy and masculinity are not the same thing. 

There is toxic masculinity and conscious masculinity. There is something masculine that can be harnessed for the good. And that in fact, when it is not harnessed, it can be damaging and dangerous.

Check out the episode here: How to be an Alchemist. The Better Men conversation starts at 52:35.